Wedding planning can and should be a pleasant experience. Planning any event begins as a list of chores, but when you think of these tasks as decisions to be made for a joyous celebration the preparations become a part of the anticipation for the big day. To make determining your choices a little easier, be true to your intentions as a couple and come to resolutions that reflect your newfound duality.

Have a conversation with your future spouse before wedding preparations have even begun. Collect ideas and get a sense of your separate expectations. Every union is unique and inimitable; and by arriving at these decisions together you are sure to create a wedding day that you will both enjoy. Start with the big questions: Traditional or Alternative? Large or Small? Then, talk about your options and brainstorm. You may be surprised at what you can come up with on your own before even looking at magazines and websites.

When you begin to make lists, try to categorize each task to make this pursuit more manageable. Categories can be broad ranging (Bridal Shower, Ceremony, Reception) to incredibly specific (Flower Girl’s Bouquets, Appetizers for Rehearsal Dinner, Invitation Color) and this form of organization will allow you to focus and will limit stress in the long run.

Above all, enjoy yourselves! Of course there may be some stress along the way, but that is true for any endeavor. With forethought and planning your wedding will be as beautiful as you have dreamed.